Dear Steve and Shirley,
I just moved to the city where my boyfriend lives, and he wants me to move in with him. But I'm not sure it's the right thing to do. I'm currently living with my aunt and uncle temporarily, so my boyfriend doesn't feel right staying overnight at their house. Quite frankly, I don't think they would allow it anyway. So, I've been staying at his house for three weeks. He services vehicles and washes cars at his house, so there are always men hanging out in the yard. He also has a cousin around his age living with him. I can't really tell what's wrong with him, and I don't want to be rude and ask, but I can see that something is off. He is always yelling at the TV in his room, so I usually walk by and close the door whenever I can. Then, his older uncles come by unannounced, which makes being intimate difficult. He usually smells like an oil can, and it wasn't that bad before I started staying with him. Maybe the smell is stuck in my head.
We were trying to get it on Saturday night when his uncle stopped by. Mind you, it was 1 a.m., and the house was completely dark. My boyfriend's cousin let the uncle in. His uncle opened our bedroom door to ask if we were asleep. I was unclothed and in a compromising position that his uncle said he'd never forget. Now I'm too embarrassed to ever see that man again. My boyfriend has too much going on for us to get it on. Would I be making a big mistake to move in with him or even keep dating him?