Good morning Steve and Shirley,
I've been married for 25 years. My husband enjoys going to the strip club. He asked me to go with him in the past but I always felt uncomfortable. Finally, last year I agreed to go with him. I tried to act nonchalant but my disgust showed on my face and the emcee joked about my facial expressions. I was disgusted to see how my husband and others threw money at the girls as if they were objects and not people. This money was some of my money that I worked hard for. I thought my husband had more respect for women than this. I feel so strongly about this that I am willing to give up my marriage. Oh I forgot to mention he actually goes once a week. I told him how I felt and he promised that he wouldn't go anymore. I knew that was a lie and when I caught him in this lie he got so angry with me. I feel he really needs this outlet. I told him he should get his own account and use a portion of his money for this pastime because ethically, I choose not to support it. I cannot be with someone who needs to indulge in this behavior. I know that most would say he does this because he is not getting what he needs at home. I am a very sexual person and I enjoy sex. I also need to be pleased and when we are intimate, I don't always get what I need. I can't deal with this anymore. I am a pretty confident person but have some insecurities, like most women, but I can still turn heads at age 45. Maybe I am just a prude. I have compromised on many things, including his infidelity and mine as well. I thought we were beyond this but am I sadly mistaken?