Dear Steve and Shirley,
Help me!! My daughter started dating this guy two years ago and he was just the perfect young man (so we thought.) They go to the same college and they would go to Bible study together and was very active in different Christian organizations on the campus because it's a Christian College. We would take him on family vacations and I would even buy him clothes and shoes when we would take our daughter shopping when she came home. My daughter has always been on the honor roll/principals list all through school and her first year of college. The problem is for the past six months this guy thinks he's dying. He constantly says that he has a terminal illness and nothing is wrong with him. He goes to the emergency room at least once every week and they say nothing is wrong with him. He thinks that he has ALS, Chrons' disease, diabetes, high blood pressure, muscle disease, loosing his eye sight and hearing. NOTHING IS WRONG WITH THIS BOY!!! His family does not want him around them because of how he's acting!! His little four year old sister is scared of him. He sits down and looks at his hands saying his fingers are shrinking and that he can't hold anything but he can still play the video game for hours at a time. My daughter is the only one that even tolerates his foolishness but in return he treats and talk to her like she's nothing. He tells her that if she don't believe that he has a terminal illness then he's going to break up with her but she still wants to hang on to him. She swears that God told her not to walk away from him because he's going change for the better. My husband has jacked this boy up and threaten to beat him down but the boy still acts crazy when they are on campus together. We haven't seen him since February when my husband almost beat him down and he has gotten worst!! My daughter who has always been on the principles list and honor roll all through school is now fighting to keep her scholarship. She went from a 3.9 to a 2.8. This is not like her. He's worrying her so bad and I don't know why she feels like she has to stay with him. I've been praying and praying and crying and praying and I know my God can and will step in. I don't want this boy around me at all and I tell her that. Her excuse is that she don't want to be alone and don't want to start all over again. I told her that God has bigger and better things in store for her but she won't hear me. As a mother I feel like its my job to protect my daughter but what can I do if she just insist on staying with him??? Please help!!!