Dear Steve and Shirley,


Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost six years. He and I both have three kids from previous relationships. Since we have been together, we have had two more. Okay, so here is the issue. In the six years that we have been together he has only had one job that has lasted maybe three months. I have always been the only one working. Aside from his cousin who also stays with us. His cousin has been shot in the past and at one point was rehabilitating very well, but since then his cousin has gotten lazy and has actually taken a lot of steps back with his health. He doesn’t want to get up and simply use the restroom or wash, so this has left my house with lots of foul smells, but my boyfriend keeps his cousin there because of the check his cousin gets every month. His kids come down for the summer and they treat EVERYTHING like it’s a play ground. I’ve got broken doors and broken furniture. They don’t listen and show a lot of disrespect. I tell him he needs to discipline his children, but he acts as if, he does so then they will hate him and not want to come around any more. I tell him his cousin needs to move out, but he says WE need the money the cousin is giving every month. I tell him I need his help with the bills and providing for our family and he turns it all around on me. That I’m spending to much and not bringing in ENOUGH!! I find myself having to go out and beg or steal almost every day so that my family can eat and a lot of times I go without eating so that everyone else can. We are all sleeping on the floor and have no furniture. I’ve never been like this before him.I have even brought jobs to him on a silver platter and he always ends up coming up with a reason why he doesn’t want to work it. He ends up blowing up so much when I simply try to talk to him about things. He feels as if he is the king and what he says goes. Steve I’m tired!!! I want to leave, but I have no where to go. I want him to leave, but he won’t do it peacefully. Help!!


Enough is Enough